This article resonated with me.
It is tough to make adult friendships. I have wonderful friends from childhood, high school, college, medical school, and residency. But as happens with life, I now live far away from most of those people.
In my post-residency life, my friendships have fallen primarily into the following buckets:
- Husband’s friends
- Mommy friends
- Work friends
I have had the opportunity to meet wonderful people in the past 3 years and I feel fortunate to call these people my friends, but the process has been quite different than in the past. In every other situation, my friends and I spent HOURS together. We talked about everything and knew the most intimate details of our lives. We shared in huge successes and massive failures. We participated in the most mundane of activities and also the most exciting. My friendships now are different. We see each other less often. Our knowledge of one another is based off of brief interactions – a few hours here and there spaced weeks (sometimes months!) apart. We are often engaged in other activities when we spend time together – working, chasing after kids, etc.
It is a truth that I recognize but also not sure where to go from here. I miss those deep friendships from my past. It would be so wonderful to have some of those friendships around to complement my new friends!